Let’s cut to the chase: What’s the deal with circumcision?

Circumcision – one of the most commonly performed surgical procedures worldwide – is the removal of some or all of the penile prepuce (which you probably know as foreskin). In North America, circumcision shortly after birth is common practice. In fact, the American Association of Pediatrics recently released a statement reporting “the benefits of circumcision outweigh the costs”1. Now, this represents yet another flip in the decades of public policy flip-flopping on circumcision, which means that we can expect an increase in the number of infant boys losing their foreskin in North America2,3. So the question that comes to mind is… what’s the deal with circumcision, anyways? Why are we doing it?

To answer this question, we first turn to the ancient reasons for this ritual. Circumcision is said to have first appeared in Native Australian tribes as a right of passage into adulthood4. Later, it was popularized as a way to eliminate man’s ungodly desire to… uh… play with it. Around the early 1900s, the excision of the foreskin was thought to prevent a range of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Medical reasons, in combination with religious reasons (circumcision is commonly performed by Jewish and Muslim cultures), lead to the rising popularity of this procedure4. But what does the research tell us? Foreskin or not; does it really make a difference?

One of the big reasons in favor of circumcision that we hear in the Sex Lab is cleanliness! There are folds of skin that stuff can hide in (see: smegma); so eliminate the foreskin and you eliminate the buildup, right? Indeed, research shows us that this may be true… for infants5. Intact boys (boys with a foreskin) tend to have much higher rates of hospitalization due to urinary tract infections (UTIs) in infancy compared to their circumcised counterparts, or girls, for that matter. However, as soon as the boy becomes a toddler, this difference disappears and girls secure the position for “most likely to get a UTI”5. But can’t teaching boys proper cleaning techniques offer a cheaper solution with less bloodshed? Research says it’s likely. So scratch UTIs as reason for continued circumcision…

Alright, let’s ask the parents! There must be some secret parental wisdom there. Great idea! Only this doesn’t reveal any more of a telling tale than the cleanliness argument. We know that parents aren’t using their doctor’s recommendations to decide to circumcise or not. It appears they tend to base their decision on gut feeling, or on the father’s circumcision status. People want Richy Jr. to look like Richard Senior (despite the huge difference in size, hairiness, and wrinkliness)6. Great. But should this be the primary justification for the procedure? I’m not convinced. Let’s dive further...

I’ve got it! Health! Less wrinkly skin around the genitals means less surface area for a nasty sexually transmitted infection (STI) to grab hold of during intimate encounters, right? There’s been a ton of research on this question and the results are… mixed. Circumcision appears to reduce the likelihood of contracting certain STIs (such as HPV, herpes), but the connection doesn’t seem to be present for other STIs (like syphilis)7. Still further analyses of aggregated data suggest that the link between circumcision and STI transmission may not exist after all8.

Ok, you say, but what about HIV? The World Health Organization (WHO) seems pretty confident that circumcision reduces HIV transmissions. That must be it! I mean, it’s the WHO! Indeed, there are at least 3 massive randomized-control trials that have gotten a lot of publicity for saying that having one’s foreskin removed reduces risk of HIV transmission9,10,11. These studies recruited thousands of men in Africa for circumcision; half were circumcised immediately, and the other half (the control group) waited up to 2 years before they were circumcised. The investigators of this study became very excited when they found the circumcised men were about 60% less likely to contract HIV than the control group. They were so excited, in fact, that the studies were stopped early and everyone was allowed to get circumcised because the researchers felt that they couldn’t ethically keep the men in the control group from getting circumcised and reaping the protective benefits themselves. And this is great news! Except, there are some holes in the interpretation of these studies...

The studies mentioned above were used to inform North American standards of practice, but the way the procedure was performed in these studies differs on some critical aspects compared to North America, and thus may not necessarily be applicable to the US or Canada12. For example, these studies look at circumcision performed on adults not neonates, on populations where HIV is primarily transmitted via heterosexual and not same-sex intercourse (HIV is transmitted via different mechanisms in the two populations). It also fails to look at alternative methods of HIV prevention, such as condom use (which has much higher adherence rates in North American compared to Africa, and is much more effective at reducing HIV transmission…and is cheaper…and has fewer risks…). Finally, there are some huge methodological shortcomings of these projects themselves; for example, researchers failed to address the fact that men who are circumcised in the study need to abstain from sex for months to allow for their penis to heal, while their intact counterparts are able to continue being sexually active (read: were at risk of transmitting HIV for longer periods of time).

Alright, alright – let’s move on from health reasons then. I heard that circumcised penises are less sensitive than intact ones, so maybe circumcised penises just… you know… feel better? Despite widespread belief, the issue of differences in sensitivity across circumcision status has received very little attention in the research12. A recently published paper from our lab looked at just this question. We assessed the sensitivity of men’s penises (half of whom were circumcised, half of whom were intact). We made sure to test nerve fibers in the penis that are likely important for sexual touch, and what did we find? No major differences to speak of13. Circumcision doesn’t seem to lead to the head of the penis getting less sensitive. Nor does the foreskin seem to be the most sensitive to sexual touch compared to other parts of the penis (which some people thought was true). When we took a similar group of circumcised and intact men and assessed their sexual functioning, we also found no differences across the group14… so no. Circumcised penises don’t seem to be less sensitive than their turtleneck-donning counterparts. And regardless of sensitivity, their functioning in the bedroom doesn’t seem to differ, either.

An even bigger mystery in the circumcision debate is the effect of circumcision on men’s partners! It seems that the impact of surgical alteration to a key factor in having sex with a man has been all but ignored. And a lot of people are having sex with men!! We wanted to shed some light on this question, too, so we surveyed women and men who were in a sexual relationship with a man. Our results were pretty awesome. Women seemed to prefer circumcised men overall, while men seemed to prefer intact men. That being said, circumcision status did not seem to have any impact on respondent’s sexual functioning. And not only that, but despite their preference for circumcised or not, everyone seemed to be very happy with their partner’s penis, and wouldn’t change their circumcision status. 15

Let’s recap: the question of why male circumcision remains such a popular procedure in North America remains unanswered. Yes, it reduces the likelihood of UTIs in babies and some STIs in adults, but when you compare the costs and risks associated with surgical removal of the foreskin to proper cleaning techniques and safe sex practices, who comes out the winner (no… seriously. Who? We don’t know the answer to that). And despite the critical role of the penis in men’s sex lives, we know even less about how circumcision impacts men’s sexual functioning or penile sensitivity. What’s a man (or parent) to do?!

Fear not! Researchers at the Sex Lab are on it! We have been working on online and in-lab studies using state-of-the-art equipment to try and fill some of the gaps that we’ve outlined here. We’ve published a few papers already, and more still are in the works. Shortly we will be able to cut to chase and answer some important questions about neonatal circumcision. In the meantime… stay tuned!

Resources:

1. Blank S, Brady M, Buerk E, Carlo W, Diekema D, Freedman A, ... & Wegner S. Circumcision policy statement. Pediatrics 2012;130:585-586. 2. National Hospital Discharge Survey, National Center for Health Statistics, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention [database on the Internet]. Retrieved from: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nhds/nhds_tables.htm#male 3. National Ambulatory Care Reporting System [database on the Internet], Ottawa, ON: Canadian Institute for Health Information; 2010. Available from www.cihi,ca/cihiweb/dispPage.jsp?cw_page=services_nacrs_e#03. 4. David Gollaher (28 February 2001). "Chapter 1: The Jewish Tradition". Circumcision: A History Of The World's Most Controversial Surgery. Basic Books. ISBN 978-0-465-02653-1. 5. Morris BJ, & Wiswell TE. Circumcision and lifetime risk of urinary tract infection: a systematic review and meta-analysis. J of Urol 2013;189:2118–24. 6. Walton, RE, Ostbye, T, & Campbell, MK. Neonatal male circumcision after delisting in Ontario. Survey of new parents. Can Fam Physician 1997;43;1241. 7. Weiss H, Thomas SL, Munabi SK, & Hayes RJ. Male circumcision and risk of syphilis, chancroid, and genital herpes: a systematic review and meta-analysis. Sex Transm Infect 2006;82:101–9. 8. Van Howe RS. Sexually Transmitted Infections and male circumcision: A systematic review and meta-analysis. ISRN Urology, 2013. 9. Auvert B, Taljaard D, Lagarde E, Sobngwi-Tambekou, J, Sitta R, & Puren A. Randomized, controlled intervention trial of male circumcision for reduction of HIV infection risk: The ANRS 1265 Trial. PLoS Medicine 2005;2:298. 10. Bailey RC, Moses S, Parker CB, Agot K, Maclean I, Krieger, JN, … Ndinya-Achola JO. Male circumcision for HIV prevention in young men in Kisumu, Kenya: A randomised controlled trial. Lancet 2005;369:643–56. 11. Gray RH, Kigozi , Serwadda D, Makumbi F, Watya S, Nalugoda F., … Wawer MJ. Male circumcision for HIV prevention in men in Rakai, Uganda: A randomised trial. Lancet 2007;369:657–66. 12. Bossio JA, Pukall CF, & Steele S. A review of the current state of the male circumcision literature. J Sex Med 2014;11:2847-2864. doi: 10.1111/jsm.12703 13. Bossio JA, Pukall CF, & Steele S. Examining penile sensitivity in neonatally circumcised and intact men using quantitative sensory testing. J Urol 2016. doi:10.1016/j.juro.2015.12.080 14. Bossio JA. Sexual correlates of neonatal circumcision in adult men. Dissertation 2015. 15. Bossio JA, Pukall CF, & Bartley K. You either have it or you don’t: The impact of male circumcision status on sexual partners. Can J Hum Sex 2015;2:104-119. doi: http://dx.doi.org/10.3138/cjhs.242-A2

I like it when you… How to tell your partner what you want.

A little to the right… down…

Down to the left a bit.

Ah…wonderful. Sigh…

Today we’re going to talk about sex, or more specifically, we’re going to talk about how couples talk about sex. Couples engage in many different forms of communication in their relationships, from day-to-day chitchat to negotiating who is going to take out the garbage. Some couples may even spend loads of time discussing what movie to watch or which restaurant to go to. But one type of communication that the average couple doesn’t do a whole lot of is sexual communication. Research suggests that the average couple knows about 60% of each other’s sexual ‘likes’ and 25% of each other’s sexual ‘dislikes’. Sexual communication—and I don’t just mean talking dirty between the sheets—is really important! It includes talking to your partner about what you like sexually, such as what positions, pressure, movements, and activities turn you on, and it also includes disclosing things that feel, well, not so great. Research suggests that sexual communication is special, and that it adds to sexual satisfaction above overall relationship communication. Which means that having great communication between the sheets (or wherever else you want to engage in sexual activity!) is going to contribute more to a pleasurable sexual experience than negotiating whose turn it is to do the dishes over morning coffee.

So how does sexual communication happen? Researchers propose that the more we tell our partners what we like and dislike, the more they understand what feels good (and what doesn't), and the better the sexual experience! But HOW does this yumminess happen? Are partners feeling warm and fuzzy and understood? Are partners making behavioural changes to incorporate more of what their partner likes and less of the things they don’t like? Or is something else going on?

We don’t know, but we want to find out.

Before we start our quest though, we note that most of the research out there has focused on individuals in mixed-gender (e.g., heterosexual) relationships—so what happens in same-gender relationships? Are the processes the same? We really don’t know the answer to this question, but we are trying to figure it out since there seems to be some basis to the idea that there are different processes happening in same- as compared to mixed-gender couples. Studies that have looked at relationship (but not sexual) communication suggest that same-gender couples communicate and negotiate at higher levels than mixed-gender couples about household tasks. This difference may be because same-gender couples cannot assign household chores based on gender roles (where women would be expected to do things like cook, laundry, etc. and men would do repairs, shoveling, lawn-mowing, etc.), and therefore, they have to communicate more about who should do what. As researchers have not taken this research into the bedroom, we don’t know if same-gender couples also communicate better than mixed-gender couples there.

Now I know what some of you may be thinking; all this information is great, but communicating openly about sex is really hard! How do I do it? This is why we’ve consulted our very own SexLab Sexpert Dr. Caroline Pukall to give us some tips on opening up communication.

1. Baby steps. Some people find it easier to break down their big goal into smaller goals. So start small and go slow. For example, if your goal is to bring up trying something new with your partner, you may start by letting out a moan or saying ‘that feels good’ during sexual activity, then, once you are more comfortable you may make specific requests like ‘down a little’. Eventually, as your comfort grows, you can ask your partner if they would like to try a certain activity. But remember, even though you have put in a lot of work to open up communication, if your partner doesn’t want to engage in that activity, don’t take it as a personal rejection and don’t push the issue.

2. Show and Tell. One way to communicate what you want is to take the reins and show your partner! Masturbating in front of a partner can be a fun, sexy, and informative way to show your partner what touches, where, make you hot.

3. Right time, right place. Sex can make some people feel emotional or vulnerable, which makes the time right after sex usually not the best time to talk about sexual dislikes. Rather, it can be helpful to talk about these things in a neutral situation when there is time to talk, like over a cup of tea, or during a walk along the beach. Start with something positive—always. Then ease into one area for improvement. And when telling your partner what can be improved, don’t forget to also tell them what they can change to hit your hot spots. For example, you may say “I’m super sensitive to that kind of touch, can you do X?”, or you may refer back to something they were doing earlier that made your toes curl: “It felt so good when you were doing X--can you do that again (please?!)”

4. Sex it up with tech. Using technology can be a fun, convenient, and sexy way to break the ice. You can use text messages to send a flirty text, or to send a message telling your partner about your likes: “I love it when you do X”, about what turns you on: “It’s hot when you do X”, or about what things you’d like to try: “I’ve fantasized about X”. Feel free to spice up your text messages with (preferably suggestive) emoticons. If you and your partner are into apps you could also try an app like Kindu that asks you and your partner to rate various sexual activities as ‘I like this idea’, ‘I’m open to this idea’, or ‘Not even on your birthday!’ The app then tells you which sexual activities you and your partner match on – the ones that you both want to try.

Talking to our partners about sex can be difficult, and it may be a little uncomfortable at first, however, we hope that our tips help you break the ice. Remember, the only way to get more comfortable with talking about sex is to try it! So this year, instead of chocolates for Valentines Day, maybe tell your partner ‘A little to the left’, ‘swipe right’, etc.

Queen’s SexLab: Addressing the Need for More Inclusive Research

The topic of sexual well-being in diverse relationships is a hot topic at SexLab. We feel that it is important to conduct inclusive research that allows individuals in ALL relationships (e.g., same-gender, mixed-gender) to participate.

This study seeks to understand more about common sexual concerns that individuals in diverse relationships experience, and how their partners respond to these concerns. As well, we are interested in how individuals communicate to their partner about their sexual likes and dislikes. Sexual problems can be distressing for individuals, potentially negatively impacting physical, psychological, and interpersonal well being. We are interested in learning more about the shared and unique ways that different couple constellations negotiate and navigate sexual problems during sexual interactions. We hope this information will help inform sex and couples therapists when interacting with diverse couples who are distressed by their sexual problems.

Eligibility In order to participate, you must be in a committed romantic relationship for at least three months. We invite men and women with or without sexual concerns, to participate. For all participants, you must speak, read, and write English fluently, and be 18 years of age or older.

To participate in the survey please visit: https://surveys.psyc.queensu.ca/SexualWellBeing.aspx To download more information click on: Sexual Well Being Infographic

Stéphanie Gauvin, MSc Candidate

Caroline Pukall, Ph.D., C.Psych.